With the passage of time, just being natural reflections, ever deeper, about aspects of life. Every birthday, every New Year, we stop to reflect on what is good and what we should change. Are aging or maturing?

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This year in particular I questioned about everything around me and a question that arose was aging, am I getting old, or mature face? I always believed that age is in our attitudes, ideas, behaviors, after all, what really is a date? I am willing, well, I have an open mind to new thoughts or opinions change, but completing 33 years hit me differently somehow.

I concluded that I'm young and it really makes a difference what we think and how we act, that's what determines our age, not the physical but the mental. I realized that today, more than when I was 20-something, I get to do things I would have done before, but had no money (and no maturity) at that time. Travel, go out with friends, I go to the shopping mall, but I know that's not all. The feelings are replaced more value, family, friendships, respect, trust, love relationships, commitment and responsibility .... our attitudes toward all that changes and some things that were once so important mean nothing and others who did not even think before become essential.

After much thought I realized that the phases pass and we learn the lessons that life teaches us (good and bad) and I realized that the hardest are those who teach us to continue living. So, here I leave my record of what I'm going through, I hope you have been able to show that age is not always in ages, but always teaches us and makes us mature. If you are experiencing a similar moment, think about it!

This question has occurred to me at different stages and already thought of several possibilities as answers, but now I think I could understand what makes us wake up and live each day.

The various steps which we live, we experience new situations, things that happen to us first, and we have opportunities, situations, decisions ... and the best way to win is not to fear, risk and move on. Who has never been afraid of making mistakes? Starting something new is not easy, but it is necessary! The novelty can be a love and often we are afraid to live it because we fear, afraid to disappoint, being deceived. Other times it is a job very good, but in an area where we do not have much experience ... there are so many difficulties and they can be very simple, like traveling by plane, or very complicated as deciding to have a child.

But the truth is that life is about challenges. We wake up every day and we are moved by them. Without challenges life would be so much beauty. The challenge of doing something new, different and also fear, insecurity and other feelings that accompany it.

Reflecting on this past few days I realized that the challenges in the drive and prepare for the next steps of our lives and we can not let others feelings take over our lives, but we must have the courage to face them head on and face life, the consequences? These are the result of our attitudes every day and they will bring us exactly what we sow.

So take a deep breath, open the chest and have the courage to face it all!

Be Happy!!

Funny I just realize how much I'm like you now that you are no longer here.

Funny I like that while their advice told me to be quite the opposite. Telling me to talk more, be more outgoing, to go after the opportunities of life.

Funny I get nervous you make fun of my hand unsteadily when its also trembled to cut the bread.

I never told you, but I like to be like you dad in many ways.

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And I feel I should've hugged more, said more times that I loved and would have danced with you more often.

You'd like to know, that the steps that have taught me helped me to salsa dancing at the wedding we chose. And nothing prevented me to take you with me to the altar, although in a reliquary.

On this day you was sorely missed, and before that I cried for several nights, wishing you were there in the most important day of my life, or else, at least it was a Sunday lunch at home.

I would not say that the pie you asked so many times, but that could make stroganoff recipe we cooked together (always remember you as one cut filet mignon, or when I buy spices that do not know to use).

Anyway, either the similarities or the differences. Be the memories, all the memories, mostly good, you feel that I carry with me every day. I am very grateful for having had a father with a heart as good as yours.

And it may not make more sense to you, but keep celebrating the 49 years he lived here on earth.

And that's why I say today: still loving you, Happy Birthday!

For some time now my life pretty much comes down to work, study, dedication and determination to achieve my professional goals and some trips that are great passions of my life!! After some heartbreak I thought no more feel the cold in the belly and I do not fall in love, after all, has spent 30 years .... that I was innocent believing that. I was sure I would not feel over those feelings that we all experience typically in adolescence, wrong!

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Years went by without me emotionally involved and it was not necessary in my life, in fact, I felt great for being able to control situations and not cling and thus able to focus on my work in recent years. But because we did not expect and it just happened when I realized I was already in love. In the early days the people I live with said I was weird, different, and I, even with all those feelings to the surface, and denied all myself (mostly) what was happening. Over the days just admitting what I'm feeling and I can say it's scary not having control of the situation (because I thought that controlled things ....) and while it's all so wonderful!

Even if that feeling is not reciprocal (wishing more than anything else) and nothing else happens from here on out, just feel this worthwhile. Be with someone who makes you bring out the most secret desires, makes you feel that "butterflies in the stomach", stand not knowing what to say and do worry about what he will think ... just that feeling that again already worth it!!

So my tip is that you allow yourself, because I managed all these years to not feel, but now I'm going through this situation again realize the importance of love and passion in our lives!! I'm sharing this special moment of my life with you because I see that several people go through what I went through and close, but not having control is better to have. I can guarantee that is simply amazing!!

Kisses and see you soon!

My work is my passion, I love what I do, but that does not mean that the path is easy or that I do not have problems. But the love for what I do is what moves me, my persistence in battle, even in difficult times is what brings me joy, especially when I realize that I was successful. This willingness to work is something that I feel, but that is certainly part of the lessons I had in my life. These days, reading the book "FABLES", the writer Paulo Coelho, moved me when I saw the text below. I sincerely hope you enjoy!!

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THE FARMER AND HIS SONS

Already on his deathbed, the farmer decided to call all his children to tell you a secret:

"Pretty soon I will have gone to another world. But I want you to know that long ago buried treasure in planting grapes beside the house.

However, I forgot the exact place. I ask you to dig until they find the whole field. "

During the rest of the year, the children rolled the earth without any results.

When autumn arrived, the vineyard has a harvest as had never been seen in the area, which later produced the best wine in the country, called by the children as "Treasury Wine".

The fruits of labor are always our best treasures.

Kisses,